Some people seem to have it easy. They socialize with total comfort. They seem naturally likable. Some of us, however, have the opposite effect. The harder we try, the less likable we seem. We push people away without knowing why. And, unfortunately, the Internet is filled with so called "tricks" and "weird hacks" to get people to liking you. Well, you may have noticed. I don't ever suggest phony tactics like this. Instead, I believe the best way to make friends is to be a friend, as the old expression says. So, take a look at the full video to learn a straightforward approach to help you avoid the common mistakes we make that push people away and then looks at tried-and-true-principles that will make you more likable and easier to be around.
Any time you speak in public, you have to make lots of choices. One of the biggest decisions is your goal for the speech. Are you speaking to inform or persuade your listeners? Informative speaking and persuasive speaking each have their own nuances but both type of speaking are important. In fact, as a professional and as a leader, you will use one or the other (or both) almost daily. The video explains all the details.
I believe that empathy is the one of the most important concepts that can transform the way we communicate. When we put ourselves in another person's shoes and attempt to feel what they are feeling, our messages will connect with others at a whole other level. As the video explains, even an interaction at a McDonald's drive-through window--that might ordinarily seem routine, shallow, and automatic--can be filled with empathy with the right perspective.
Expert power is one of the types of power or bases of power explained by French and Raven (1959). Expert power is one of the most interesting social influence approaches because expertise is not connected to an organizational position. Essentially, expertise can come from anybody, a doctor, lawyer, engineer, or other experts that may or may not come with any supervisory responsibilities, as the video explains.
Referent power refers to the influence leaders have because people admire and look up to them. As French and Raven explain, when a follower likes a person and wants to be close to them (or maintain closeness), they will follow the leader's example. We see this in the power of celebrity endorsements. An influential person may not even realize that have referent power as the video explains. Clearly, referent power makes influencing people much easier than relying on some of the other bases of power.
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